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What is love? |
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There
are three different types of love: Romantic
love can
be fun, exciting and entertaining. It
can keep you in a state of delirious happiness but if something goes wrong
it can plunge you into despair with highs/lows, like being on drugs. Addictive
love
is becoming addicted to the thought of a romantic love learned from
family, friends, books and T.V. Which
all portray that if you lost the person you love it would be a tragedy.
This type of love can manifest itself in possessive, jealous and
even violent behaviour. Nurturing
love.
This indicates a healthy, mutual respect, trust, caring and sharing
between two people. This type
of love is how it should be but in a relationship with an abusive partner
it is unlikely to happen. If you think you love the person abusing you it’s because you are made to think that way. You’re worn down and confused. If you get out of the abusive relationship you will probably begin to miss the abuser and think you need them because you love them so much. With
romantic and addictive love, you can develop inflated views of their
abilities, your lack of self-esteem, putting them on a pedestal. But when you are beginning to feel good about yourself you
will realise that you are in love with the idea of being in love rather
than the actual person. Life
at this point will start to get a lot easier, self confidence will build,
you are able to start to take control of your own life and well being.
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