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Why do some people abuse the person/people they are supposed to love? |
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We
live in a society where there are few consequences for abuse [especially
female abuse]. So some people
think they have the right to do it. They
feel benefit from abusive behaviour and want their partner to remain
dependant on them. Others
blame it on society and the media. They
feel influenced by the violence they see and hear about.
This is NO excuse they do it because they CAN and they can get away
with it. Some abusers really
don’t want to be violent but there is not much help available for them
to find ways to calm them down and control their tempers.
There
are a tiny number of people who claim to be ‘cured’ of violent
behaviour, by a perpetrator scheme (self help group) that has just
started. Hopefully more people will seek help and if they realise they
have got a problem, the scheme might work for them.
Others have got mental health problems and with help from
doctors/psychiatrists and medication could stop being so violent. Domestic Violence is often seen as a loss of control. But really it’s usually very controlled. The time, the place, who is hit and where on the body. It is a chosen behaviour because it works as power and control over the domestically violated person. Violence doesn’t necessarily breed violence. It has been found that a perpetrator of Domestic Violence is seven times more likely to have come from a non-violent home.
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